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Destination weddings…please for the love of god justify the insanity of this for me?

07 Aug 2010

7 Aug, 2010  destination weddings

Friend gets married…you get an invite….for their wedding….in the Bahamas. Is this not incredibly ridiculous? Who wants to spend their summer vacation money going to a wedding instead of their vaction spot of choice? I’m sorry, I just don’t get this concept of making people with (a) miss sharing your special day or (b) going into semi-debt to avoid missing your special day. Am I missing something here or is this not the dumbest creation for weddings ever?

I got married on a cruise specifically because I DID NOT want the hassle of a big wedding. I figured that if I went away and had it in a romantic (but unaccessable) spot, people wouldn’t feel like they had to come and I wouldn’t have to host them. (No, I’m not anti-social, it’s just that there were problems between the two families and I didn’t really want them getting together.)

Alas, my parents insisted on coming to my destination wedding, so it wasn’t a true elopement.

But, in general, I think people should only have destination weddings when they are prepared to keep it to a few close family and friends – and help foot the bill.

By the way, destination weddings are a lot cheaper than having a wedding for 250 in your home town. Not only do you combine the wedding and honeymoon expenses, you are not paying $60+ for people’s dinners plus the open bar, etc. When you think of it this way, you can afford to help pay for the couple of dozen people you really want to be there.

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5 Responses

  1. bluekitty1541

    2010 Aug 07 1

    People choose to get married in places that mean something to them. Some people find the beach very romantic and special. Most destination weddings are held in beautiful settings on beautiful islands.

    The hotels take care of all the nonsense details that people agonize over when planning a wedding. Often, little extra decoration is needed since the setting is so nice. Usually food and drink is included in the room price both for the wedding as well as the time before and after — a big savings if you have to travel.

    Another unforeseen benefit is that only the people who really care will be there — there is much less pressure to invite people who are no longer close or relatives you never see. People move away from the place they grew up in all the time — would you expect them to move back to their old hometown for their wedding just so it is convenient and cheap for you?

    Bottom line, it’s their wedding. If you don’t want to spend the money to go, stay home.
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  2. Gypsy

    2010 Aug 07 2

    I always thought it was kind of stupid, too. The way I think of it:
    If you want to get married in some exotic location, go for it. Just don’t expect your friends to waste thousands of dollars just to watch you make your vows. You’re just not that special. Sorry.
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  3. Debby F

    2010 Aug 07 3

    You are so right. Just let the bride know that you won’t be attending. You are smart not to go into debt for that.

    But if you do give a gift you should have them make copies of the wedding pics. After all it’s not like you could afford to go and take the pics yourself.
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  4. Drake D

    2010 Aug 07 4

    There is the company called. DOITYOURFUCKINGSELF
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  5. stacy f

    2010 Aug 07 5

    I got married on a cruise specifically because I DID NOT want the hassle of a big wedding. I figured that if I went away and had it in a romantic (but unaccessable) spot, people wouldn’t feel like they had to come and I wouldn’t have to host them. (No, I’m not anti-social, it’s just that there were problems between the two families and I didn’t really want them getting together.)

    Alas, my parents insisted on coming to my destination wedding, so it wasn’t a true elopement.

    But, in general, I think people should only have destination weddings when they are prepared to keep it to a few close family and friends – and help foot the bill.

    By the way, destination weddings are a lot cheaper than having a wedding for 250 in your home town. Not only do you combine the wedding and honeymoon expenses, you are not paying $60+ for people’s dinners plus the open bar, etc. When you think of it this way, you can afford to help pay for the couple of dozen people you really want to be there.
    References :
    http://www.Cheap-Weddings.org


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